I’m admittedly not really a fan of New Year’s resolutions. If you want to change something, why wait until an arbitrary date to do so? That said, I understand that there’s something cathartic to starting anew on 1/1. Seeing lots of posts about resolutions, one words, moods, etc. going into 2019, I figured I’d hop on the bandwagon, but instead of a resolution, I’ve decided to choose a word.
“Move with a purpose.” Skrongman writes this into our programs regularly (and will yell it at you in you aren’t acting right in the gym). If you watch a strongman event, while it often looks like brute strength, the reality is that most of what we do requires a lot of technique in order to not grossly injure ourselves. An athlete, ideally, should always move with a purpose. No wasted steps, reps, breaths, or motions. If I can focus on my purpose while I run with 500 pounds on my back, I think it’s time to focus on my purpose elsewhere in my life too.
This is going to be most challenging at work. I used to work in student housing/residence life, which has a very hands on, touchy-feely approach with students and staff alike. As I progress in the Student Conduct world, I’m learning that who I was in housing is far different than who I need to be in this role. I’m still an educator, but my purpose is to hold everyone—students and staff—accountable. I hope to do this mindfully and with grace and kindness, but I have to remember that accountability isn’t often well-received. My purpose doesn’t change because of the way people react to it.
After reevaluating my place in strength sports, I’m hoping it will be easier to acknowledge my purpose in my workouts. I’ve said it in blogs before: Strongman is a marathon, not a sprint. Though it’s given me more in terms of structure, friendships, and physical and mental strength than any other endeavor so far, the bottom line is that Strongman also doesn’t pay my bills. This year is all about getting (and then staying) healthy and falling back in love with the sport. Easy enough, right?
I’ve purposely saved my purpose in relationships for last (see what I did there?). I like to think of myself as a pretty good friend, but I’ve recently realized I’m not a very purposeful friend. I put lots of time and energy into lots of people, and that’s great and not something I plan to stop. However, I’m no longer putting time and effort into those who don’t reciprocate it. I’m not going on a Facebook purge or any of that dramatic BS, but I need to really purposely start divvying up who gets my time and, more importantly, my energy.
In conclusion, I’ll leave you with my mood for the year. That’s right, I’m gonna have a word and mood for 2019 and, “There’s nuttin’ you girls can do about it” (if you do not understand this reference to the Disney classic Mulan, get off this blog and go watch it). Really, as I try to be purposeful but also remain true to myself, I think the following combination of often-heard adages fits quite well: “When you have more than you need, build a bigger table, not a higher fence,” HOWEVER, “If you are not able the table, you’re on the menu.” I will always remain willing to build a bigger table, but if you aren’t purposefully at my table, welp…::Kanye shrug:: see you in 2020.