Well-Intentioned White People: Y’all Still Here??

As we all know, COVID numbers are on a big ol’ uptick because Americans only love thy neighbor from 9:00 AM to 11:00 AM on Sunday mornings and can’t fathom wearing a mask if it’s not about self-interest. Your social media feeds are likely back to everyone being public health experts, so you might be […]

Juneteenth and Less-Than-Well-Intentioned White People

Y’all got me effed up today: uncaffeinated, spiked blood pressure, and blogging before lunchtime. My job is closed, so after taking the dog out around 6:15 AM, the Bitch BrigadeTM (both cats, the dog, and I) went back to bed til about 8:15 AM. Took a nice long shower, flossed with extra care, responded to […]

Well-Intentioned White People: We Gotta Know Our Role

In the last two posts directed at my well-intentioned White brethren I made a few calls to action. While coming from a good place, I realize that action could be problematic if taken and run with without context. Specifically, as White people look to educate other White people and simultaneously take the burden off Black […]

Well-Intentioned White People, How We Doing?

It’s been a hell of a week, my friends. Hell of a year, really. We’ve hit Level 6 in Jumangi, and I’m really hoping the worst of the summer is going to be my performance in PhD-level statistics after having not taken a math class since…2006…but I’m sure that’s not going to be the case. […]

Well-Intentioned White People, Let’s Talk.

In the past, I’ve been very accustomed to lifting heavy things. Running with hundreds of pounds on my back, loading atlas stones heavier than my body, and carrying the weight of grown men on my chest for distance all came naturally to me. None of that prepared me to shoulder the weight of the world […]

30 Life Lessons Before 30

Y’all, I turn 30 a week from today, and I don’t know how the hell we got here. The plan when I was 16 was to be married and done having kids by 25. As I look down the barrel of 30 with no man, 2 cats, 1 dog, 2.2 degrees, and a headache, we’ve […]

Balls Got Dropped

As many of you know, I’m a bit of a planner. I’ve got plan B-C-D-E-F ready before A has happened. I’m also an introverted extrovert. I do, in fact, get energy from working a room and being surrounded by people, but I don’t want small talk. I want to talk about your plans and your […]

Personal Responsibility

I’ve been doing a lot of reflecting lately and have been encouraged to really think about the traits I want to possess and what I look for in others. As I reflect on these traits I deem important, I’m finding that having a sense of personal responsibility is a recurring theme. What do I mean […]

Needs vs. Wants

Y’all, where has the summer gone?! I cannot believe I’m sitting here writing this on the last day of July when I feel like it was just January last week. I read an interesting theory once on why time seemingly moves faster as you age, but that’s not the topic of today’s discussion. For as […]

Girl, Call Your Therapist.

Hey y’all, it’s been a while! Life has been busy with the end of the semester, moving, my birthday, and lots of other things, but I’m back! I’m back, and ya girl is struggling a little bit. 3 years ago around this time, I had my first ever panic attack. I was walking out of […]